First we have to identify the immediate pain that they hit us with once you feel them creep up on you. You are not in that moment anymore. If we do not allow moments that ended up in pain to stay in the past, life cannot be perpetuated. Of course, a little something remains from the past. That doesn't mean every memory is bad or hazardous to your mental health. It's where you put the thought and where you want it to reside within you.
Man has the ability to keep the painful past as a memory, but also can be separated from it with forgetfulness. There needs to be a balance between "I remember" and "I forgot". That specific balance enables us to walk towards the "new". When we dwell in the past, we are hindering ourselves from the blessings that naturally come into our lives when you "forget" the pain that lingers with the memories. That doesn't seem fair, does it? We are so obsessed with other people being fair to us, that we blindfold ourselves from what we are ultimately responsible for: being fair to ourselves by caring about our own feelings and depicting who is allowed to get to know us.
All of the memories are just paragraphs within the chapters in your life. I completely understand and know it's very hard to turn the page. But again, if you love and care about yourself, your actions will show that if you KEEP the past painful memories in the PAST, you will get to know yourself and what you deserve. You can treasure the feeling you had in those memories, but if you keep moving forward, you WILL see that Time is actually on your side, not against you.
When you remember a lot from the past and put it in front of your moving-forward feet, you will find a lot of impediments on your way to the "new". Memories, wounds, and habits from the past definitely poison the present. Continuing to reminisce of the painful memories creates a vacuum within yourself which leads to the absence of the present and the loss of the future.
Natural forgetfulness, which occurs automatically, causes us to forget whatever is unimportant, just the daily routine. Thus, most of our days are forgotten. There is a different memory loss that we can approach and eventually make it attached to ourselves. What can help us with that is forgiveness for the ones that hurt us and ourselves for letting the memories haunt us to the point of infestation within our memory. We were being very unfair to ourselves to what we actually deserved. We definitely do not deserve pain in any way shape or form. Pain is a part of life. You cannot fight it from coming into your life. There are going to be moments where people will hurt you and you cant prevent that from happening, but there is one thing you can control, its the way you react to the pain and how you want to get over it....quickly, I hope.
"Don't Need You" - Letoya Luckett
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvpv4gsNlA4
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